I learned
If you set as the purpose to force the teenage daughter to feel in the courtroom, then transition to the personal most right way.
If you do not aspire to it, it is necessary to find different ways for clarification of everything that it is interesting to you in behavior of own child.
I learned about one effective equipment from teenagers: when parents tell it about a situation in the third party.
Conversation in the third party allows the teenager to discuss a subject, without feeling need to watch each word because someone interferes with his life.
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